Finding Bravery

[dreamcatchings]

I have a problem. Aside from the "OMG, moving in a little over a week must pack up my entire life" thing. My father knows I'm moving. He does not, however, know that I'm moving in with timberwolfblues because I am a coward. Each day I have tried to work myself up to it and each day I back down, tuck my tail between my legs and scamper off. It's not that he doesn't like the boy because he does. I'm just afraid Dad would think I was making a mistake or get one of those looks or say something stupid and then I'll cry and feel horrible about myself and about everything.

Mom knows. Mom doesn't care. Hell, Mom suggested it.

The problem is telling my father.

Any suggestions? Or, um, anyone want to tell him for me?

Comments

[laele75.livejournal.com]

"Dad, I'm moving in with the boy."

Subject is closed. Because this is man who is moving out to middle of nowhere to live off of nature. He hasn't a leg to stand on about practicality.

Stop fretting, it'll be fine.

*hugs*

[cad27.livejournal.com]

You are totally a big enough girl to live with ze boyfriend. Totally. So I'll say bite the bullet, tell him and all will be well and if not, over.

[chickwithmonkey.livejournal.com]

I'll tell him for you. "Sir, your daughter is a 23-year-old college graduate with an excellent job, money in the bank, and a boyfriend she's been dating for five years. She is intelligent and competent and rational. She's moving to another city and she'll be living with that boyfriend, who is also intelligent and competent and rational. End of story."

Okay, wordier than what laele said, but I like to be thorough.

[laele75.livejournal.com]

Honestly, the mere thought he can offer any reasonable object is laughable at best and infuriating at worst.

There is just nothing to object to, especially the way you worded it. I am just not really the type to suffer fools at all and honestly, because of all the reasons you listed, all she needs to say is.

"Dad, I'm moving in with the boy."

And that really should be the end of the conversation. Because really, it's happening whether he likes it or not. And a reasonable, loving parent would be accepting and supportive.

[fuzzytale.livejournal.com]

You can do it! You're a big girl and besides, he should appreciate you having the added security of not living alone. I know how you feel, though. My folks weren't too thrilled when I moved in with the boy after college, they got over it though. Just took dad a bit longer....

[z-squared82.livejournal.com]

You could do it flat out, or you could do the really passive thing and not tell him now and when he finds out say, "But Dad, I told you this. Don't you remember?" That might not work on your dad, of course. But it usually works on my mom.

Or don't tell him and when he finds out, "Oh, I didn't think it was that big a deal. Sorry I didn't tell you earlier."